Debbie Ford, author of The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, Secret of the Shadow, and Spiritual Divorce is convinced that our lives can be enriched and transformed by asking the right questions. At a retreat, she was told that we each carry a flame and that hers was very small. The choices she was making were not feeding the fire but diminishing it. The image stayed with her: "Each of us has an internal flame that is the keeper of our life force. Each choice we make either adds to this force, making it stronger, igniting and feeding our flame, or diminishes the force, dampening our internal flame, reducing its power." Certainly the people who are in our life contribute to this process: some dim the light; others serve as catalysts to a larger and stronger flame. Staying awake is also important. Far too much of the time we are on autopilot.
Ford examines ten questions which can spur us to greater spiritual growth: a few of these are: Will this choice propel me toward an inspiring future or will it keep me stuck in the past? Will this choice bring me long-term fulfillment or will it bring me short-term gratification? Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another? Is this an act of self-love or is it an act of self-sabotage? Is this an act of faith or is it an act of fear? Am I choosing from my divinity or am I choosing from my humanity? This self-help book contains plenty of good advice and will definitely help you feed you inner flame as you struggle to become all you were meant to be.